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Monday, April 23, 2018

Things happy people never do

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Happy people do a lot of things.  They spend time expressing gratitude, cultivating optimism, practicing kindness, nurturing loving relationships, committing to meaningful goals, savoring life's little pleasures, and so on and so forth. But they never…

Mind other people's business: Forget about what others are doing.  Stop looking at where they are and what they have.  Nobody is doing better than you because nobody can do better than you.  YOU are walking your own path.  Sometimes the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes circumstances with everyone else's public highlight reel.  We listen to the noise of the world, instead of ourselves. 

So stop the comparisons!  Ignore the distractions.  Listen to your own inner voice.  Mind your own business. Keep your best wishes and your biggest goals close to your heart and dedicate time to them every day.  Don't be scared to walk alone, and don't be scared to enjoy it. 

Don't let anyone's ignorance, drama, or negativity stop you from being the best you can be.  Keep doing what you know in your heart is right, for YOU.  Because when you are focused on meaningful work and at peace within yourself, almost nothing can shake you.

Seek validation of self-worth from others: When you are content to simply be yourself, without comparing and competing to impress others, everyone worthwhile will respect you.  And even more importantly, you will respect yourself. How are you letting others define you?  What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you? Truth be told, no one has the right to judge you. 

People may have heard your stories, and they may think they know you, but they can't feel what you are going through; they aren't living your life.  So forget what they think and say about you.  Focus on how you feel about yourself, and keep walking the path that feels best under your feet. Those who accept you are your friends.  Those who don't are your teachers.

 If someone calls you something and it's true, it's not your problem because it's true.  If someone calls you something and it's not true, it's not your problem because it's not true.  Either way, whatever they call you is not your problem.  What other people call you is their problem. What you call yourself, and who you decide to become, is your problem.

Rely on other people and external events for happiness: Unhappiness lies in that gap between what we have now and what we think we need.  But the truth is, we don't need to acquire anything more to be content with what we already have.  We don't need anyone else's permission to be happy. 

Your life is magnificent not because someone says it is, or because you have acquired something new, but because you choose to see it as such.  Don't let your happiness be held hostage.  It is always yours to choose, to live and experience. As soon as you stop making everyone and everything else responsible for your happiness, the happier you'll be.  If you're unhappy now, it's not someone else's fault.

 Take full responsibility for your own unhappiness, and you will instantly gain the ability to be happier.  Stop seeking in vain to arrange conditions that will make you happy.  Simply choose to appreciate the greatness that is yours in this moment, and the right conditions will start to line up around the contentment you seek. The greater part of your happiness or unhappiness depends upon your outlook, and not upon our situation.  Even if things aren't perfect right now, think of all the beauty still left around you.  A good reason to smile is always one thought away; choose to tap into it any time you like.

Hold on to resentment: Let today be the day you stop being haunted by the ghosts from your past.  What happened in the past is just one chapter in your story; don't close the book, just turn the page. We've all been hurt by our own decisions and by others, and while the pain of these experiences is normal, sometimes it lingers for too long.  Feelings of resentment urge us to relive the same pain over and over, and we have a hard time letting go. Forgiveness is the remedy.  It allows you to focus on the future without combating the past.

 To understand the infinite potential of everything going forward is to forgive everything already behind you.  Without forgiveness, wounds can never be healed and personal growth can never be achieved.  It doesn't mean you're erasing the past, or forgetting what happened.  It means you're letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.

Resist the truth: It is a certain deathtrap when we spend our lives learning how to lie, because eventually these lies grow so strong in our minds that we become bad at seeing, telling and living our own truth.  Lives come apart so easily when they have been held together with lies.  If you resist the truth, you will live a lie every day as the truth haunts your thoughts every night.

 You simply can't get away from your truth by moving dishonestly from one place to the next. So don't bend; don't water it down; don't try to hide the truth with deception; don't edit your own soul according to the fashion of what's popular.  It is better to offer no explanation or excuse than a false one.  It takes courage and strength to admit the truth, but it is the only way to truly live.  Accept what is, embrace it fully, and live for the possibilities that lie ahead.


The writer is an online activist & active blogger.                             ----Marc Chernoff
The write-up has appeared on
www.marcandangel.com

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