Goals that every relationship need to achieve
Falling in love is perhaps the most beautiful feeling in the world. However, building a relationship with your beloved and working hard to make it last a lifetime makes it even more special. Wondering how you ensure that the spark in your relationship doesn't die out? It is simple, set goals. Setting up these goals doesn't need to be a very complicated process. Here are ten realistic relationship goals for you and your partner -
Try to go a few days without needing each other: While, it is a beautiful feeling to be in love and to experience the urge to want your partner with you all the time, it is equally important that you both separate love from just needing each other all the time. Work together to create a bond that is able to thrive without you two being together and by each other's side all the time.
Have daily conversations: Considering our fast paced lives, we seldom have the time to share details of our day with our partners. It is an important goal for any relationship to ensure that you set up a daily ritual to connect and communicate. Decide on a time outside the usual small talk during dinner and sit together to listen to what each other is going through on a daily basis. Make use of this time very carefully, be present, hold hands, embrace each other and talk your hearts out.
Strive to become each other's best friend: Although, the inherent chemistry between the couple is the backbone of every relationship, being friends is as an element that plays just an important role in promoting a healthy relationship. Be your partner's best friend, promote comfort when you two are having a conversation, joke around and cherish each moment just like you would with long time buddies.
Have each other's back: Being in love is one thing, but having your partner's back is altogether another story. Maintaining a lasting relationship is never as easy as they show on the television. When things go bad in your relationship, the goal should be to always have each other's back no matter what and support each other in the darkest times.
Support each other's dreams and goals: Pay attention when your partner tells you that they wish they had the chance to continue their studies, or when they tell that you that they want to become a dancer. Don't laugh. Pay attention. Support your partner and push them to achieve their dreams.
Do something new once a month: Wondering why your past relationships lost their spark just after a couple of months? Because you became boring to him/her and she/her became boring to you. It's never good to remain the same as monotony is bad for relationships. Strive it out and go the extra mile to keep things fast paced & exciting in your relationship.
You can start by taking your partner out to this exciting new place in town which has an exotic cuisine. Indulge in an adrenaline pumping activity with your partner like going for rafting, skateboarding or even a gaming session. Take extra care of how you look at least once a month by staying on top of your fashion game, because the single biggest killer of any relationship is being a drab, boring and dull presence that your partner might lose interest in very quickly. Let it spark, let it wander & above all, let it be magical.
Try to resolve issues with maturity: Maturity is the singular most important trait that helps a relationship grow and truly thrive. There is no such thing as a "perfect couple" who has never had their first fight. Handle each other's faults and resolve your fights (big or small) with maturity.
Share plans for your future: Perhaps one of you wants to have kids in the future while the other one is planning to work on a PHD. No matter what your plans are for the future, it is very important that you share them with your partner and ensure that you both are on the same page. Not only will this goal help avoid conflicts in the future, but it would also help bring you two closer and truly enrich your relationship.
Love each other unconditionally: Loving each other unconditionally should be the goal of every relationship, as it is something that never fades. While, this goal could be tougher than building a spaceship to travel to the moon, however, let us assure you that this goal is in fact achievable. Strive towards loving each other, trusting each other and supporting each other's decisions without expecting anything in return. (excerpt)
The writer is a freelance contributor at www.marriage.com